The key to dealing with anger is to monitor your self-talk. Self-talk is a major strategy in any anger management program. Self-talk is the conversation you have with yourself about people, situations, circumstances, frustrations, and any expectations that may make you angry. When you are frustrated or angry, you allow that person or situation to occupy most of your thoughts. You will know someone is inside your head when all your self-talk is about them. The way to get things that make you angry out of your head is not to focus on it, but focus on what YOU have control of and take responsibility for your own behavior.