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Die to Live

January 17, 2015 by Kayce L.

We want to look our past in the face, see it for what it really was, and release it so we can live today.
There is no other way to live in recovery. Our Paradox tells us #4. “We Die to Live” the old life of drinking/using and fuzzy thinking must die! In order for us to live.
I personally love this reading. To me it is so true. Everything about my drinking/using days had to die in order for me to live. My way of thinking, my surroundings, friends, my habits, even most of my family. In a biblical sense start a new. Live in the now.


  1. ilsa says:

    I too love this reading. I think of my fears that way, that in order for me to live, my fears must go! I am working on a fear inventory as even though I went through the steps with a sponsor, I find old fear that I wasn’t letting go of still affecting me. This program saved my life by allowing the old me to die off. It’s like the dinosaurs: if they didn’t end up dead there wouldn’t have been room for both of us!!

  2. Adam says:

    Appropriate topic for me today. Today is day 193, and I am approaching my 8th step!

  3. Brad says:

    I was I told I only needed to change one thing
    And that one thing was everything

  4. Judy says:

    Nerver forget my past is what got me here nerver forget it was like a job finding my high I thought it was normal to drink and it was me agaist the world today it’s not albout me it’s a we program just leave my past but nerver forget it

  5. Bill L says:

    Love it!!! So true

  6. Shane says:

    You know I have left my group of friends.however I still live so therefore drink is always around me.when I hear some one say all I drink is beer and water I think two things.1)Why can’t I too still do that?2)what a dumb a$$ if you only knew.So I guess what I’m trying to say is even though we leave are past behind us we fortunately arnt dead.So there for we must live.

  7. Barbara A. says:

    I’ve been in a toxic relationship with an Alcoholic who is supposedly in Recovery. He has repeatedly been dishonest and deceptive to me. He told me he’s in love with me and wants to be with me, yet I just found out he’s recently engaged to someone else by seeing it on Facebook.
    After reading the above paragraph: “You must die to live,” I now realize the importance of releasing any negative feelings, anger, and resentments as well as releasing the relationship.
    I’ll have 2 years sobriety this May. God Bless AA. It’s helping me get and stay sane as well as sober.

    • Thomas Cromer says:

      Barbara your better off without him. God has a better guy for you . You seem like a wonderful person. Keep your happiness first the rest will fall in place I am 3 years and 7 months on February 9th. !!!! And life is beautiful . You take care Barbara .!!!!!!

      • Barbara A. says:

        Thanks for your support, Thomas.
        Trying to stay positive, but sometimes resentments
        cteep in. Think I’m trying to be “perfect”
        Instead of looking at my progress.

        • kim d. says:

          Barbara, a practicing alcoholic is always dishonest. It is part of the disease. It is vertually impossible for a practicing alcoholic to love someone, because they are just too self centered/absorbed/serving etc. Take this as a crossroads that your ” higher power”has lead you to. It is now up to you to choose the road that is good and wonderful and leads to your happiness. That is what your ” higher power” wants for you.

        • Thomas Cromer says:

          I’m happy Barbara I’m happy for you. I am you deserve happaniess I’m sure your a beautiful woman well you stay in touch ok smile everyday ok because I do.!!!!!

  8. Jennifer says:

    I know that the old me has to die ao that the new me can live. I have went to rehab once and did soboxtine and outpatient. I was doing so good and then I started using again. For some reason I forget what this stuff does to me once I start I cannot just use one time for pain it starts the cycle all over and now I am going thru hell again. I’m ashamed and scared and I just want to get this so I can be free of this sick twisted obsession. I’m struggling to find a sponsor and I hate having to start again being sick. Has anyone got off opioids by tapering off I’ve only been on for two mo but two mo too many.

    • Barbara A. says:

      The trick is to want sobriety more than you want to use.
      That takes time. Be patient with yourself
      But Renee how bad it makes you feel when you want to pick
      Up again. Good luck!!!

  9. Bob says:

    My sponsor told me the condition for a new life is the discarding of the old. I had to change all my old thinking and behaviors. What helped me most, besides God, was reading the 12 and 12 over and over again. Repeatedly reading retrains the brain!

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