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Resentments

June 16, 2015 by Kayce L.

Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stems all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally an physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically. When we harbor such resentments we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. Let go and let God.


11 Comments »

  1. wilson b says:

    Resentments are the weeds in my garden.
    If i don't thin them out diligently multiples
    Grow until they drain all the energy out of the plants
    Im growing. Resentments take the energy i need to
    Live this new life.
    Keep it simple
    One day at a time
    Let go and let god

  2. Shane says:

    It is so hard to not get a resentment.Everyday someone tries to give me reason to dispise them.I feel like I'm judged more now that I'm sober than I was when I was drinking.

  3. Mike says:

    It's seems that many things bother me, but trying not to focus on the negative

  4. Carl N says:

    All my resentments are based out of fear, which is rooted in desire, I falsely believe I need some ones approval or need that person, or that thing in my life to be ok, or happy. When I did inventory I see the lie I tell my self, and once it is exposed I am free. This is important because I am the one creating all my own resentments. It's not any one else, or anything else. This is good news my recovery doesn't depend on any one else.

  5. Jody says:

    Resentments have me at a pause on my fourth step and I cannot make it past them without anger or rage. I cannot go one day without finding myself in anger at people from my past and the feeling of blame at them. I pray often asking God for his help and giving me the strength to move on.

    • MaryAnne says:

      "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step"
      -Confucius
      I was stuck in step 4 for the longest time, and now that I've
      Heard your story, I see that resentments were holdings me back.
      Thru our program, however, I have learned thatt my inventory is
      MINE, not the inventory of people and situations I resent.
      Listing resentment first as a character defect and then listing the
      persons I resented and why, as outlined in the Big Book,
      allowed me to get thru step 4. Soon I'll be sharing w/ my
      Sponsor and moving on to step 6.
      Bill and Dr. Bob did not intend the steps to hold us back.
      They meant for us to work them and keep working them.
      They are the basic tools of our recovery. It has been suggested to me
      that I move as quickly and diligently as possible. I can always start
      Them again. This is not a program I'll graduate from.
      I have also heard that Step 4 is so difficult for some of us as
      To cause relapse. I am terrified of relapsing. My disease wants me
      Dead. Strong motivation fore to keep working the steps!

  6. David says:

    it wasn't until I took responsibility for harboring resentments and not forgiving others for being who they are that I started being a useful member of society .

  7. Thomas Cromer says:

    Yes u will just pray deep and they will come out .!!!!!!!

  8. Zoe says:

    I have just back through step 4 and 5 for a second time and wow my eyes were opened even more. Column 3 of the resentment list shows me where I am relying on people places and things to fill the holes in my soul. They can't fill that only my HP can. No wonder I end up with resentments. Step 4 is a truly freeing exercise. Love my sober life.

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